Brandon, I'll just bet that the kids the parents say won't take a nap unless they are laying down with them, take naps just fine at your house! It's what they get away with at home. I worked with an attorney, who slept with her first son until he got almost as big as her (she was a small woman) at age 5, and then SHE started sleeping in his twin bed with HIM! She had a husband, too! If the boy slept in their bed, the husband slept in the kid's bed. They had a second son, when the first one was about 6, and I always wondered where he slept! I never brought either of my kids to bed with me, never. I was so afraid I would roll over on them when they were little, and I never figured out how to nurse them while laying on my side. I think it's a bad habit to do that, and lazy in my opinion.
My older sister breast fed both of her children, but she did the second child until she was 2 1/2 years old! Good grief, I think that's just a little too long! I think she did that because she had very small boobs and when she was nursing, they were bigger. LOL I did nujrse both of my kids until they were 6 months, they took a bottle until they were 9 months, then they wanted a cup. They NEVER had a bottle in bed with them, never. My son, the oldest, loved his pacifier. When I saw a child about 4 years old in the grocery store with a pacifier, I decided right there and then that my child would NOT be like that! When he was 2, he traded his pacifier for a receiving blanket covered square pillow (I made it for him) and he never looked back. Must have been the right time of the moon. His sister had a pacifier, but she loved her thumb. That was MUCH harder to get rid of. When she was 2, she was no longer allowed to suck her thumb anywhere but her bedroom. If she was caught sucking on it watching tv, I would simply ask her, "Are you tired?" The thumb came right out. LOL She still sucked it in bed until she was about 7 or 8, though. She begged me to put stuff on her thumb so she would quit, but she still sucked it. Things I had control of, I controlled.