can't be afraid to make a mess sometimes, JDub; trick is knowing when to move forward despite the naysayers. Quick lil story; back in the mid 80s, a few years after being married and renting apts, houses, decided to BUY one finally. So, looked around and the only houses we could afford were in not-so-great neighborhoods, so came up with the idea maybe I could BUILD one for similar money to what we could afford. So, made the plans, went to the bank and asked for a construction loan. They flat out told me no. I asked why and they said I couldn't build it for the amount I wanted to borrow.
Now, ifn I was addy's hubby, this would be the moment SHE and YOU says; ah, better not make a mess and 'blow the whole thing up'!
I decided the bank peeps were wrong and went forward, sawzall in hand, so to speak! I quoted the bank as needing $55K to build a 2 car garage, 3 bedroom 2100 sq ft ranch on property I already owned. I made one design change to a 3 car garage (which rippled through the house, increasing the sq footage now by 400 sq ft) and when I was done building, it cost $65K. I guess I was actually right to grab the sawzall, hey? Wouldn't have had this house otherwise if I'd hesitated on what I believed. Sure, I've made other decisions that failed, no problem understanding us men aren't always right to plough ahead, but again, you have to do what you have to do, as a man, sometimes.