Whenever my hubby takes off to the store or wherever, I do all the stuff around here that he didn't want me to do. He comes back and eventually notices I have new trees planted, stuff dug out for new paths, ponds, fire pit etc. I haul stuff home that I find for free and hide it till he leaves and then do what I want w/it. He says I am a pack rat but heck, I find some darn good stuff, rocks, wood, furniture, tools, fence posts, anything you can think of I have found it! This all avoids any pre-doing conflict and afterwards I just ignore what he says and say uh huh, uh huh ok I get it and go about my business,lol. They aren't secrets long but it works for me