Ponding, as grief therapy

[Dave 54]

I haven't been around much recently. My Dad passed away Feb. 1, 2016 and I was helping with his care, prior to that. I've felt such a deep sorrow , a profound loss.

Today was 64 degrees, so I went out to my pond. I have a fine mesh net over it, as I have a cedar tree above. I brushed off some debris, then laid on my tummy lifting the net, to peer into the water.

It was quiet and still, clear, cold water, with lush green algae . I saw all five of my koi and they were moving around slowly.

I felt so happy, it gives me something to look forward to, the opening of the pond. I believe ponding will be wonderful grief therapy for me this season. It fills me with appreciation of simple beauty and a sense of purpose, caring for these living jewels.

Oh Tula so very sorry to hear about the loss of your Father .
You have the right idea because this is what keeping koi did for me , it focused my mind from allot of bad childhood memories that until I started keeping koi where destorying my very being .
Its a wonderful therapy,for finding a persons inner peace again

Dave

 

[tbendl]

Virtual hugs from me as well. I'm so sorry.

 

[C-Note]

I am SO sorry to hear this news. Big hugs to you @Tula

 

[callingcolleen1]

I'm sorry for your loss @Tula. Ponding is a great way to relax and help heal your sad heart, I too used my ponds and gardens to help me cope a while back when hubby had cancer. I just wanted to make Heaven on earth for my sweet hubby. Thankfully he is cancer free now and thankfully I had my ponds to help me get over my own grief and sorrow when I was not sure if he would live or die. There is just no place like your own home and garden! Sending you lots of hugs!

 

[moby]

I know how you feel, believe me. My husband of 40 yrs died a year ago today, 4weeks after his diagnosis. Hopefully our loss will begin to heal given time, but we will never forget. My family, friends and garden have been my saviour, long may they continue to give me hope and strength to cope with what the future holds.

 

[Tula]

I know how you feel, believe me. My husband of 40 yrs died a year ago today, 4weeks after his diagnosis. Hopefully our loss will begin to heal given time, but we will never forget. My family, friends and garden have been my saviour, long may they continue to give me hope and strength to cope with what the future holds.

Awwwww, I'm so sorry. I know today must be very difficult. May you continue to heal at your own pace, it's nice to have ponding friends, who understand.

 

[Tula]

I'm sorry for your loss @Tula. Ponding is a great way to relax and help heal your sad heart, I too used my ponds and gardens to help me cope a while back when hubby had cancer. I just wanted to make Heaven on earth for my sweet hubby. Thankfully he is cancer free now and thankfully I had my ponds to help me get over my own grief and sorrow when I was not sure if he would live or die. There is just no place like your own home and garden! Sending you lots of hugs!

Colleen,
You surely have created heaven on earth, it's magical. I'm relieved for you and hubby, he is cancer free.

 

[Tula]

I am SO sorry to hear this news. Big hugs to you @Tula

C-Note,
Thank you for your kind words...it's nice to see you here