After reading some responses and some testing of the first drum I built, I've decided to go with solution like DrCase.
2 x 55G drums that run independantly aiming at 750 GPH gravity return but I will be using 2" return at the bottom of the barrel now and 1.5" inlet at the top that is under pressure from the pump. I like this better since I can put a media container at the top for fine particles and access it easily to change it.
this pic shows the check valve which will attach to the 1.5" pond hose from the pump and then be split into 3x 1.5" paths. I plugged the middle one (future use), and hope to get 50% water split between both 1.5" paths one going to each 55 G drum. at 4' head (3' water + 1' from 10' of hose) the pump can push 1400GPH.
Here is pic of both barrels (first one with new 2" hole and no drain yet), 2nd barrel with top cut off an no holes yet.
This is new 2" drain that will be plumbed into the bottom of the barrel.
At 2" diameter gravity return should push 750GPH. I realized to achieve 750GPH gravity return you need a water column above the outlet to create presure with gravity so the barrel should provide 3' head since I changed to a top inlet on the barrel. The run of pond hose adds reduced flow to the gravity return.
I was talking with my brother (mechanical engineer who likes tinkering with anything) suggested a pressurized barrel would elimiante the need to worry about gravity return flow rates and only flow restriction losses from head height. Since I have all winter to tinker, I may get his help on looking at a sealed barrel head design (removable).