I don't know what brand you've purchased. If it's Oatey, it should very clearly say primer on the can. It's a purple can and you can't mistake it. Unless your brand says cleaner and primer, it is not the same.
Ball valves can be expensive in the hardware store versus the big box chains, but they are much better quality. They will be more expensive for sure. I have a bunch of compression connectors on my pond as well, and they are very useful as you can remove them when necessary.
I'm not clear on what you're asking about regarding the manifold. I have several that i've created with a Y pvc pipe (wye), they don't have as hard as an angle as a tee so you get less friction. The big box stores also sell y's as compression fittings too, but I think the largest size might be 1 1/2 inches (can't remember if they make a 2" wye). You simply put a ball valve on one of your divided pipes and you can control the waterflow. You don't need two ball valves, just one is enough to force more water through one side rather than the other.