you were advised; as few/slowly as possible without jeopardizing the pond movement. So, you could get almost any size pump and use that. That said, most send a decent amount through their bog. I have a 180 cu ft bog and send approx 4000gph. I've also done half that. My current setup uses the bog for visual effects, i.e. a waterfall, so I send more than is necessary. You're not going to hurt it by sending too much; the plants and bacteria will take what they need. If too much goes up and past, it'll just end up getting back to your pump to do so all over again. If you're using a 2000gph pump, if it were me, I'd wye off and send one feed to the bog and one to a waterfall/filter. If the waterfall isn't pouring as you wish, then I'd get a secondary pump of 1000gph to supply your bog. You can always wye this off and put ball valves on each feed, giving you ultimate control over how much goes into your bog. If you send 'too less', your plants will probably alert you first by showing yellowing leaves in that they are not getting enough nutrients. We seldom have this problem here, though.
You have to understand, 'maximum filtering' is momentary. Once the plants start filling in and the pea gravel gets a bit clogged, you no longer ever have 'maximum'. You do have adequate or even great filtering, though! Your bog will have a faster flow through in the spring before the plants really take off and less so in the middle of the summer when they're established. It IS recommended that you prune back the plants every so often as this promotes more vigorous root growth and that is where their part is played out best. Everything else re your bog is bio in nature; the bacteria will colonize and convert the ammonia and nitrites.